Over- Rated Love.

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." ― Dr. Seuss

When you search Google about what is love, you'd find endless number of searches in front of you. Everyone has a different definition to love, it varies from being the most beautiful feeling God has made us sense to the worst feeling ever. It's ironic how love makes you feel so beautiful but pathetic at the same time. Love comes in different forms, love from your family, love from your friends, love from that one person and many more. Many of you who take out the precious time out of your busy life to read my blogs have noticed that most of my blog posts have something related to “prince charming” written in it. For people nowadays, love is when you see this really attractive guy sitting right next to you and he stares at you the whole time. For some other people, love is when a guy constantly talks you, day in and day out and you're just like, he's the "one". 

It's all about the pretty woman and gorgeous boys now. It's all about winning best couple in prom now. People date for popularity.

Dear teenagers, every relationship of yours is not "TRUE" love. Yes, it is true that there is someone out there who thinks you're beautiful and you complete their life, but be patient, when its time it'd happen. It's sickening how every guy you date is your true love and you think that it would last forever but then, boom! He's flirting with your best friend for life or shall I say BFFFFL, behind your back, ouch. 

I have mentioned this before, WHAT IS WITH THE PDAs? Picture this, you guys put up so much PDA on a social networking site and you break up, how's it going to feel looking back at your picture lip locking with him/her? (Getting goose bumps thinking about it.) When you're dating someone you cannot just assume he/she is your life in a day or two days’ time. Lying to your parents for him/her is the worst part of the whole scenario.

I know of people who think its "cool" to have been with ten girls, or to have been with three girls at the same time. (What you tryin' to do boy? Turnin' your swag up another notch? Not happening.) I also know of people who date for three days and it’s officially over and you're just sitting there trying to remember how long had that relationship even lasted for it to end so fast? That's what happens when you just say yes to any Tom, Dick or Harry. Please ladies and gentlemen, calm your hormones (I don't think I can be using gentle there.) And the last type of people, the ones who think they're going to get married to this person after dating them for how long? Two months? Three?

Don't get me started on the breakup; it's like chocolate sauce on top of my chocolate brownie and vanilla ice cream (Not joking here). For the first three months she or he is devdas or Tulsi from kyunki saas bhi kabhi Bahu thi (I just hope there is a Tulsi in that serial...) and after that she or he is "I'm going to party till I drop". They call each other terms like "Playboy" and "Sluts". PLAYBOY IS A MAGAZINE AND A SLUT IS SOMEONE WHO HAS CONSTANT INVOLVEMENT IN SEXUAL ATTRIBUTES. Before using it on each other, GOOGLE IT WILL YOU? The positive part about this kind of relationships is that after the break up you learn how to lift yourself up, you become stronger, you're more cautious.

P.S: This blog does not imply to everyone dating. Not hurting anyone's sentiments here, just blogging my opinions.

Thanks for reading. :D

Damini.

December 16^th, 2012: A young girl raped and beaten up by six animals (No, I am not going to regard them as human beings, they lost that status and dignity ages back.) It was news everywhere. People from all over the world were shocked, but it did not stop there. The shock took over much more effectively when the girl died and no justice being given after over say, twelve days of suffering. Protests took place in parts of India; everyone was infuriated by the conditions of the Indian government.

Indeed, like every other citizen of India, I too am ashamed of what happened in the past few days, but what makes me laugh the most is the mixed reactions of the people. Here’s what happens, a girl got raped, it was news all over the place, at THAT point of time everyone hates the Indian government, hates India, is ashamed of being a citizen of India and so on, but as soon as India wins the match against Pakistan, “Yaay India!”, “Indian and proud” etc. What happened to the hatred towards India this time?

From my point of view, rape cases happen everywhere. There are such people who exist all over the world, who are sadists or who aren’t in the proper sense of mind. It’s all about how the country, the people and the media take it. In some places, this sort of information is censored, it’s not let out, but the government gives punishment immediately, in say about a few days. BUT in some places, the media is just waiting to pounce; it’s just waiting to get some action and Boom! Before you know it, it’s on every news channel, every website, and every news paper. 

There are some people who go completely against the idea of using social media sites to show your interest towards the issue. If you are sitting in one part of the globe and using your social media power to voice your opinions, what is the harm? Why do you have to be so pessimistic, thinking that nothing can happen sitting in one part of the globe and voicing your opinion about some issue happening in other part of the globe? If I am a citizen of the country where the issue is happening and I plan on showing my concern towards the issue, who are you to stop me? If two girls can get arrested for questioning the ‘Bal Thackeray Shutdown’, then I do have a little hope that my message to can be passed on, though it won’t make that much of a difference, at least I can hope for something to get into the minds of the pessimistic people.

To all the people out there, my only question is if these six men were educated, would they have even thought about raping the young girl? Would an educated person do such a thing? Destroying a young girl’s life that way, don’t you think they’d have that much sense in them if they were educated? Every man is born out of a woman; he definitely has a mother, a grandmother and maybe a sister. It’s all about your respect towards the woman race. It’s all about how you were brought up and definitely about how you see things. Your mentality has to be right. “Teach your son how to behave, do not stop your daughter from going out.” And what happened after this entire incident, the protests that took place, everything that the people did, did people stop raping girls? Did the wrong doings stop? No.

I think, Damini has definitely gone to a better place. It was better than staying here. If she survived the memories of the horrible incident would have killed her. She was a fighter.

Experience with time.

Don't you sometimes think and stumble upon the fact that maybe, just maybe all of us grew up way too fast. I mean it’s just weird how as kids all we ever wanted to do was grow up, become like the adults around us, become like the teenagers we saw and NOW, suddenly all of us want to stop growing up. All of us want to go back to our childhood and obviously get out of this schedule filled busy days, the never ending days where you want to get a minute of fresh air but you can't because you're always caught up with some or the other work, those days when you just want all of this stress and mental pressure to come to an end. Time passes by way to quickly to enjoy every moment of it. Everything around us is dull, so grey. Slowly, the everyday stress starts to blend in and we get used to it, forgetting whether life was always like this or not.

I remember how a few years back everything was so different, no one cared about anything happening around them, they were so oblivious to the fact. None of us cared about the way we spoke or the way we dressed up, it was all about having fun but as years passed by, that's when I really witnessed the truth. These people, who once did not care about anyone or anything, now are so self conscious about the way they looked in front of a certain group of people or in front of people as a whole, about the way they spoke, each word was spoken much more carefully in order to not make them look like fools, of course. So self centered and so full of themselves. Before, it was all about having the right friends, always sticking by each other’s side and not letting each other go. Now, it's just about enhancing your image in public and wanting everyone to talk about you, the war of being the most popular, as I would like to call it.

To the people indulged in the war of being the most popular, it's good to know a lot people but sometimes it's best to keep your friends, true friends close. Remember, it's better knowing little people and having good friends than knowing so many people and having not even one friend who'd stand by you in times of need.

Sometimes it's good that time flies by, at least that makes you turn down your blind fold, knocking you with the truth, telling you that sometimes the people you thought would always stay by your side weren't really the ones who did, they weren't worth your time and now definitely not worth your tears either. Also, in some cases the people who you least cared about were the ones who always cared about you, no matter how much of a horrible person you were to them. It's all about priorities I believe, first priorities are given to people who don't care for us and third priorities to people who do, so ironical.

From my experience.

All of you have come across a laborer working endless hours on a construction project, tired and trying his hardest not to quit. He’s forced to do such heavy labor, not because he wants to by his own choice, but to feed his small children, to take care of his family, of his parents. He faces so many problems, so many hurdles in his way, weight on his shoulders, he’s drenching with sweat, mud covered body, but he doesn’t stop. Hurts to know right? Indeed inspiring but at the same time painful. The work they do, might look easy from a distance but trust me it isn’t. We treat these people so rudely, be so harsh to them and they never complain. The money they get for the job they do is so little, they deserve so much more. They deserve so much more respect than they get. 

We’ve seen families suffer; we’ve seen a thousand videos in school, on television, in various programs about their family’s grievances and honestly, who gives a shit? Who?

Think about this, people who work in well ventilated, air conditioned places get the highest of the salary there is and people who work day and night in the scorching heat get what of a salary? 

When you interact with the people who come from these poor villages, the blindfold is gone. You then know the hidden truth. We all know that poor people face sanitation problems, hunger & starvation, lack of employment opportunities etc but do you know that these are that section of people, whose wants, needs, problems are ALWAYS ignored? The head of this particular community doesn’t give a shit about them. No doubt that these heads have always made promises, promises giving assurance that everything is going to be fine, but can you see action? We’re all so busy in our schedules that no one cares whether these promises are really fulfilled or not.

The way they tackle problems, handle circumstances is really remarkable. These poor people use jungles for sanitation facilities and it’s not even because they want to, it’s because they have no other choice. Imagine us in their places, we’d run if we see a lizard itself! 

In my eyes, these people are the strongest. We crib if we get the smallest of the smallest cuts on our hands, we crib when we gets blisters, we keep whining and these people keep quiet, take in all the pain even they can crib but they don’t. They know they’ll be ignored, they’ll be cut off. No one cares, that’s why they always keep quiet. 

 

Plastic World.

Hey everyone,

So basically all this time, I’ve always been blogging about some or the other particular topic, but this time it’s everything together. Like when I say everything together I basically mean that there were so many things I wanted to vent my emotions on and I did not really want to create different blogs on each topic, so yeah this. And this blog would be the most informal piece of work you must have ever read because basically when you got things already irritating you and on top of that there is everything else piling up and you have no one to talk to about them; you just end up being really disorganized.

WARNING: THIS BLOG IS GOING TO BE HUGE, UNLESS YOU REALLY WANT TO READ. I SINCERELY APPRECIATE YOU READING A 700+ WORDS BLOG. THANKS :D

PART 1: There’s this thing that gets on my nerves when it comes to people, I’ve commonly noticed it in the people around my surroundings but whatever. So here’s the situation: She/he is your best friend and vice versa. Now let me get this straight, if you have to think thrice before confiding to this best friend of yours, do you really think she/he is your best friend? (Again, I am just stating my opinion on the above, other people might have different opinions on the same.) A best friend according to me would basically be your other half. Someone you can be yourself with (Though I feel you should really be yourself with everyone, because eventually you’re going to get tired of being this other person and get back to your normal self.) So as I was saying, a best friend is one who you can share anything with, I do not mean EVERYTHING, I mean ANYTHING. But, if you have to re-think about telling this best friend of yours that particular thing that you cannot possibly tell other people, I do not really think she’s your best friend. Just because she hangs out with you all the time, you sleepover at each other’s places all the time or your parents are close, doesn’t mean you guys are best friend seriously.

PART 2: You know what really pisses me off? People running behind being the “POPULAR” one in the surroundings and everyone is so caught up with their own drama and about who looks prettier than who. It’s like war. I mean, I know of people who go like, “Omg she’s wearing such a short dress, more people are going to fall for her.” Like seriously? THAT is your mentality? And there is a place and time to wear these revealing clothes by the way. NOT EVERYWHERE AND ANYWHERE, I mean come on I’m not going against you, you can wear whatever you want whenever you want but have the right sense of mind to know the appropriate time and place. And ‘the more people are going to fall for her’ part, I’m going to lay it down straight, to the girls, HE IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING, HE IS WITH YOU, TO USE YOU. (If you still don’t understand that, I’m sorry, I can’t make it any more obvious than this and to be honest everyone, be it a boy or a girl is beautiful within them, in their own way, it’s only time and your environment that has changed you to what you were to what you are now.) I know, I have mentioned this in some of blogs, it’s just annoying. (I do not know when I jumped to some other topic. Back to what I was saying.) The most important thing, IF YOU REALLY WANT TO GET POPULAR: Get popular for good reasons, the right ones. Not the Bad ones, why spoil your image in every third person’s eye?

PART 3:  You know how it feels to be surrounded in an environment with arrogant, mean people? (I should really stop with the “you knows”.) Truth: It is so suffocating to stand in a place filled with back biters. Every second step, someone is back biting about the other. Can you not gain the courage to stay it on the face? And I can bet on it, you wouldn’t even care about how she/he feels after you say all the mean things which you were saying behind her back anyway. Next, Judging, We always end up judging people knowingly or unknowingly with or without the intention of hurting them but sometimes it’s so extreme that it really tends to hurt people’s sentiments. This is what happens: You are good at something, you show your talent to the world. Now people who don’t have the guts to do the same thing this other person is doing sit and judge (When I refer to ‘guts to do the same thing’ I mean something like public speaking or face the audience with something you’re really good at etc.) At least have the humanity in you to not judge the person?

I think I’ve spoken way to much today, thanks for reading (that is if you reached here.) Do leave in your comments.